So You Think You Can Circumvent the Constitution

Not a mommying blog by any stretch, but the overturn of Prop 8 in California does mean something to me as a mother and for what I hope Kaydra's future holds.  Anyone that knows me at least a little bit, knows how I feel about same sex marriage.  Any consenting adult should be allowed to enjoy any right given to any other adult member of that society.  Especially if they are expected to pay taxes and obey the laws and things of that nature.  It is not something I like to debate.  I don't see it as a moral issue, I don't feel that my marriage is cheapened by it (Heidi and Spencer on the other hand totally cheapen the institution- too bad marriage between fame whores can't be legislated out of existence).  Anyways, aside from all that, lets get to the point of the blog.  I hope my daughter grows up in a world where this isn't news.  That marriage or civil unions, or whatever you want to call it, is available to all Americans.  I want her to never quite grasp that there was a time when that wasn't the norm.  I want her to feel comfortable in her skin, embraced for the sum of her- not just for the pieces- gay/straight, female/male, fat/thin, white/non-white, etc.  I don't want her sexuality or even her gender to define her.  I want her to play on playgrounds where the phrase "that's so gay" isn't uttered, where boys and girls play together, regardless if it is basketball or dolls.  I don't want something that is such a small piece of a person be the thing that defines her. 
I sat in my doctor's office yesterday and witnessed racism and misogynism at its best.  A "gentleman" was angry that his wife had been examined by a black doctor and never wanted "that rough black man" ever touching her again (now this doctor just happens to be my doctor, and he has never been anything but professional and very kind).  The secretary offered to make the young woman an appointment with a female doctor.  The man refused again, saying a female doctor could not be as good as the one white doctor in the office.  I don't want this to be something my daughter ever witnesses.  What makes a good doctor?  I would say skill and knowledge.  Neither of these are limited my race or gender.  Yet there are still people that use those things as part of how they judge a person's skill or competence.  At work I constantly have to get a male appraiser to explain taxation stuff I've already explained because, as a woman, much of the general public does not feel I can adaquately grasp something as sophisticated as taxation or appraisal and so I must be explaining it wrong.  I don't want that to be a fact of my daughter's existence.  Prop 8 and measures like it aren't  just about defining marriage.  It's about thinking about people in a new way.  Taking the person as they are without slapping a bunch of limiting labels on them first.  This is what I want for Kaydra.  Now I just need to get the rest of the country on board.  No H8